Chris's article appearing in MS focus magazine summer 2008 issue

Earlier this spring I had written an article for MSfocus magazine and it was recently published in the summer issue. My article, entitled "The Gangs All Here" is on pages 50 and 51 if you receive this quarterly magazine and you want to check it out. If you don't have access to the magazine, I have included a similar version below. Please let me know what you think it, and where it was that you saw the article.

Below that also new, the Easter Seal's organization recently placed a profile about me and my use of assistive technology provided by Easter Seals in their newsletter. Because, Easter Seals provided me with voice recognition software and the training to use such software, I was able to write a book and several articles designed to help others better deal with the stress placed on a relationship as a result of life being interrupted by a chronic illness.

The Gang’s All Here
By Chris Tatevosian

My marriage of ten years began dissolving when the “Monster” invited his friends to live in my house. If you have MS, I’m sure you’ve met the gang. There was the kingpin, Stress, his best friend Anger and his twin, Misdirected. Of course, Feelings of Worthlessness was there and his brother Feelings of Inadequacy who brought his best friend Low Self-esteem and his sidekick Depression, who hung out with everybody’s buddies, Worry and Anxiety. As usual, Communication was a no show, but sure enough his sister Miss-communication popped in and overstayed her welcome. They never left, but my wife did.
Sounds like the cast of a real nightmare. At that point of my life it literally was a real nightmare, and I couldn’t see myself ever waking up. MS can become a real nightmare destroying relationships between spouses, family members even friends. I wrote the book “Life Interrupted, It’s Not All About Me,“ a self-help memoir, my real life story of marriage interrupted by multiple sclerosis. It could have been any chronic illness or disability and it could have been anyone’s relationship. Still, this book is intended to help others going through a similar situation deal with the stress and hardship put on one’s relationship as a result of life being interrupted by chronic illness or disability.
I should’ve known something was up when my then wife and I went days without any real communication. I guess I did know. Call it being a dumb guy, but I was expecting a literal warning, an out right ultimatum. Something like, “Chris you need to change or Chris, you/we need counseling or I won’t stay in this marriage. Eventually the combination of this physically debilitating disease and my quick to anger poor me attitude was more than enough to make the difficult decision for my wife to leave come to fruition. This interruption to our once loving relationship had become too much for my wife to bear. Remember, it wasn’t just my then wife watching her partner struggling with his physical losses. No, it was also, and in my case likely more so my unintended compassionless and bitterly radical emotional changes and instability unbearable. Unintended or not my unacceptable behavior and complete personality change combined with my overwhelming stress, misdirected anger, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, worry, miscommunication and depression, the “whole gang,“ just became too much to bear. I lost sight of what was important in life, that's why I wrote my book dealing with all the emotional turmoil that is thrown into a relationship that is interrupted by chronic illness.
I got remarried last April. My new bride, Jane, is fantastic. And even though my disease is worse off than during my first marriage I could not ask for more. So what’s changed? We truly have a wonderful relationship. Why is my marriage working so well now, even though my MS has continued to progress over the past eight years. I can attribute this to two factors. First, Jane is truly a special person, and second. I have written this book, which has afforded me the opportunity to slow down and examine my life. The obvious fact is, we have the choice to go through life dealing with whatever trials and tribulations we must, and we must deal, with either a smile or a frown. Yes, we have an affliction, but that doesn’t mean we have to go through the rest of our lives pissed off at everything and everyone, living in complete misery.
My wife Jane and I, we, laugh and laugh together and at one another all the time. Sure, I have slipped ups, get frustrated and angry. It happened just the other night. I became so frustrated with Jane during the middle of the morning. It must have been about 3 AM. No it was 3:17 AM, I have one of those giant digital alarm clocks for the legally blind. When I cae in the shin, among other places all night long BAD! Of course I have to deal with nocturnia, which means every time I wake up I have to empty my bladder. I take prescription Flomax so normally I can sleep through the night without having to get up to visit the bathroom. Needless to say, it was a long night and I was ready to scream at my wife, which I would have done in my previous marriage. So what’s the difference, what’s changed? The difference is that I have written, re-written, read and re-read. my book so many times that when I do begin to slip-up it’s so obvious that I can’t help but catch myself. And let’s not forget, Jane has read the book too, so when I slip up she’s quick to point out “Chris, I think you need to revisit page 76 “and we have a good chuckle. Remember life is too short, you choose whether to laugh or cry. I never thought I would get married again. After all, who would marry damaged goods? At one point prior to my marriage I said to my wife to be, why would you marry someone with MS, that is like buying a vase with a hole in the bottom. Her response was, maybe I want it to hold dried flowers. So these dried flowers are happily married and loving every minute of it.

Easter Seals profile May 2008

Chris Tatevosian was an athletic 18-year-old college freshman when he received a shocking diagnosis: the numbness in his hand was an indication that he had multiple sclerosis.
Chris went on to graduate, study for a master’s degree and work as an analytical chemical technician. But his medical condition was progressing at the same time and began touching all aspects of his life. Eventually, his marriage failed and his self-esteem was shattered.

As his condition worsened, Chris turned to Easter Seals for assistive technology that could help him live more independently at home. Easter Seals specialists Katrina Parker and Oren Kuhn improved his computer’s performance and installed an automatic door opener that allows Chris to open his sliding glass door from his power wheelchair. But it was the voice recognition software they provided that made the biggest difference in Chris’s life. The 46-year-old Holliston resident used it to write a book, called Life Interrupted, about his experiences. He hopes the book will help anyone faced with a chronic illness or disability to recognize and eliminate what he calls the “poor-me” attitude that often goes along with these conditions.

Originally published in 2007, the book is being revised and is due to be released in the summer of 2008 in print, audio and electronic form. Chris is now remarried and is grateful to Easter Seals for helping him launch his writing career and find a new direction in his life.

“Without voice recognition software, I never could have written this book,” Chris said. “It has allowed me to help people. I thought I was the only one going through these experiences, but I’ve heard from so many people since the book first came out. These problems are so prevalent.” The book has benefited Chris, as well as his readers. “Writing this book has increased my self-worth and self esteem,” he said. “Everybody at Easter Seals has been very friendly and helpful,” he added. “From Cindy Aiken, who’s in charge of the assistive technology, on down, they’ve been very considerate.” The Easter Seals services Chris received were made possible through a partnership with the Massachusetts Rehabilitation Commission.

Every Tues 2PM central blogtalk radio show "winning life through pain" has a new co-host......

Winning Life Through Pain with your host RSD coach Marlon Martindale and the Voice of Fibromyalgia, Crystal Dunn will be joined by me, Chris Tatevosian, who they have asked to join them as co-host, and I have humbly accepted the position.


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Join us to discuss reflex sympathetic dystrophy (RSD), chronic pain, fibromyalgia or MS. Any chronic condition or anything you desire . Its open forum day! We can talk about Manny Ramirez hitting his 500th homer or the Celtics being in the NBA finals. Who’s from Boston? And, let’s not forget about my book Life Interrupted, It’s Not All About Me, which I will be selling for a reduced price of just $10 during this particular show.
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On her web site, Coach Marla, the well educated host of “Winning Life through Pain,” her blog radio talk show, speaks with callers dealing with chronic illness of which she knows firsthand with a sweet, caring, bubbly voice and demeanor of a true Christian. In her own words she proclaims:
I'm Marla, your RSD Coach™ I have embraced and have been empowered by RSD (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy) since 2003. While we all experience RSD a little bit differently, but we all feel pain, isolation, unworthiness, and depression at some point, I know them very well. Using RSD Coaching™ techniques, I will show you how to break free and live your life to the fullest. This is not just for those of us who suffer with RSD (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy), but also for those of us who suffer with MS, Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain Syndrome as well, because they all cause a great deal of pain and mental stress.
Blog Talk Radio Tuesday 63/08 . Here is the number: 347-324-5661, call in with a question, a statement, a joke or just to say hi.
Blessings, Chris